tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post6238069425132432898..comments2023-05-19T15:30:01.828+01:00Comments on Chris's Cancer Community: Are you a 'guilty survivor?' Chrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-38834356318416265262013-07-21T11:28:26.562+01:002013-07-21T11:28:26.562+01:00Hi Pat
You are right there. No one can travel thi...Hi Pat<br /><br />You are right there. No one can travel this journey except us, and we do it in the best way we can. There is no rhyme or reason to it at all. So sorry to hear about your friend. <br /><br />My situation is similar to yours in many ways. Although I don't have chemo, but maintenance blood treatment. People say the same to me, but I think it is more comfortable to say that you look well. It really is difficult for others to know how to react.<br /><br />You are right about living in the moment. It took me a long time to get into that mindset. There are sometimes when I am pleasantly surprised what tomorrow brings me! <br /><br />Thanks for your comments. It is very helpful when people read how others are feeling. Take care Pat, ChrisChrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-920107173585968492013-07-21T11:14:18.159+01:002013-07-21T11:14:18.159+01:00Hi Sam
Thanks for your comments, that make perfec...Hi Sam<br /><br />Thanks for your comments, that make perfect sense. You are certainly not the only one who feels like that! My Consultant made it very clear that it is a real issue for a lot of cancer patients. <br /><br />The reason I write this blog is to show that you are not the only one who feels like you do. A lot of people cannot understand the psychological and emotional effects of a cancer diagnosis. How can they if they haven't been touched by cancer? <br /><br />For me, I always ask why me? Why am I still here? It obviously isn't my time yet. Anyway, I have a lot more writing to do!! <br /><br />So glad you are writing again. You have a talent, and so many young people can learn from your journey. Well done Sam :) Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-88241837011328394812013-07-20T17:41:42.279+01:002013-07-20T17:41:42.279+01:00I don't feel guilty about facing each day and ...I don't feel guilty about facing each day and living the best I can. As I write this, as a friend of mine is deteriorating terribly with stage 4 lung cancer. My heart goes out to her, I visit, we talk, but we each have our own path to walk. No one can walk in someone else's shoes. No one can understand if there is any rhyme or reason to this.<br /><br />It's interesting. People don't see me as "sick". I don't let them see the nausea, the fear, or the fatigue that goes along with the chemo and the cancer. People say I look great (I should; the chemo keeps me nauseous and I can't eat!) and am fit (I work at it--it helps dispel the fatigue and keeps me going). I personally think that truly living in the moment is the most one can do and that should never carry any guilt. <br /><br />Carpe Diem!<br /><br />Pat Wetzel<br />Anti-Cancer ClubAnti-Cancer Clubâ„¢ Newshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01686967190432982487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-29857818579407310442013-07-20T13:41:30.028+01:002013-07-20T13:41:30.028+01:00Here's me thinking I was the only one! I only ...Here's me thinking I was the only one! I only feel guilty when talking to people who have lost someone to cancer except my mum. She's lost a sister and her mum to cancer and then her daughter survives it. It shows her hope and less doom for cancer so for that I feel blessed but when other people have nothing but gloom and doom thoughts on the issue I start to feel more so like I'm living on someone elses borrowed time.Sam HShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06166072946585639072noreply@blogger.com