tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post8830124974791789878..comments2023-05-19T15:30:01.828+01:00Comments on Chris's Cancer Community: RelationshipsChrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-81289577860010677952012-04-26T11:28:28.015+01:002012-04-26T11:28:28.015+01:00Hi Melissa
Thank you for sharing your ve...Hi Melissa<br /> Thank you for sharing your very powerful story. The example which you talk about is more common than you might imagine!I have often said that it is sometimes more difficult to be a partner than to be the person who is ill.We tend to get all the attention and our partners are left to cope on their own with their very different issues.<br /> I am not convinced that there is enough awareness of the problems that partners face.Your partner however, made his choice, but at least you knew where you were.I think we both know that there is no rule book with our disease, and we just have to deal with things when they come along. I think we are certainly much stronger mentally, than before the process.A cancer diagnosis certainly tells us things about people that we didn't know! (Good or bad)<br /> I don't know if you watch Eastenders, but there is a cancer plot in there currently.Tanya has cancer and Max her husband is struggling. Apparently now she is in remission he feels that their relationship can switch back to normal. He says,'But the cancer is gone' she says, 'But it hasn't gone from my head'! Very poignant I thought.<br /> I hope to welcome you back to the blog soon as your comments will be of great value to other readersChrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-67530792228457334912012-04-25T21:44:14.852+01:002012-04-25T21:44:14.852+01:00Hi Chris
You're so right, there's nothing ...Hi Chris<br />You're so right, there's nothing like a cancer diagnosis to put a relationship under strain. I was in a relationship that collapsed after I received my acute myloid leukaemia diagnosis at the age of 33. At first it did bring us closer together but fairly soon the cracks began to show and my partner just kept saying he couldn't cope. It had changed so many things between us and he left almost as soon as my treatment had finished. It was horrendous at the time, words can't really explain how bad it was, and like you said, if it hadn't been for my family (my parents and brother) and friends I really don't know how I would have got through it. But the way I see it, now looking back, is that it was for the best as if it hadn't been cancer it would have most probably been something else and so better to know sooner rather than later if your partner can't do 'for better or for worse!' I take comfort in that and I hope anyone else reading this who's going through what I did, will too. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel, believe me!Melissanoreply@blogger.com