tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post5001073368391938935..comments2023-05-19T15:30:01.828+01:00Comments on Chris's Cancer Community: How to talk to a person affected by cancer?Chrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-45997609677779582292013-02-01T16:55:52.328+00:002013-02-01T16:55:52.328+00:00Hi
There are no rules for this sort of thing, and...Hi<br /><br />There are no rules for this sort of thing, and everyones reactions are different. That is what makes it so difficult. I have found that the biggest hurdle, is always talking about the disease. Once you can both do that more comfortably, you should be able to talk more openly aout other things that are important to you both.<br /><br />Cancer is life changing, not just for the patient directly, but loved ones etc, so good communication is the key to it.<br /><br />I hope you find this useful. Thank you for sharing your issues, which I know are so common for people affected by cancer. We can all learn things from each other.<br /><br />Feel free to drop back and let me know how things are going, ChrisChrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-29332307457537522462013-01-27T08:04:44.130+00:002013-01-27T08:04:44.130+00:00You are soo right. My best friend is suffering of ...You are soo right. My best friend is suffering of cancer and its like really awkward sometimes...sometimes I just dont know what to say to her so I simply hug her. I mean I know its hard for her but she has to survive. I am so confused when I am around her; partly because I dont know how to deal with her and partly because she has become very sensitive.. so I try to be extremely nice to her and try to make her happy. But I am still very confused and I need help!Thiefspawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11460779260373261224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-70720879963830820192013-01-25T16:28:16.771+00:002013-01-25T16:28:16.771+00:00Hi Jezza
That's why I write this blog and than...Hi Jezza<br />That's why I write this blog and thank you for your observations. I think this is a very common issue, as I wrote this post nearly a year ago and this time round we have had a lot of interest again.<br /><br />I think sometimes, that we, (the patient) are so consumed with our own issues that we don't consider how others see the situation. Most people, unless they have been personally affected by something have very little understanding of it. To avoid embarrassment it is easier to ignore it.<br /><br />As we are both aware, there are many more things involved in a cancer diagnosis than, just the physical issues. In some cases these are easier to fix than the psychological and emotional scars, which in some cases can be with you for the rest of your life.<br /><br />Unfortunately, none of this stuff comes with a manual. It is what I have picked up along the way, and what good is experience unless it is shared.That's why this blog was born!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing, and your positive comments, which are great for the readers. Cheers, pal, ChrisChrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-52113190044787779662013-01-24T09:03:02.776+00:002013-01-24T09:03:02.776+00:00Chris
Just read this article again. It's bang ...Chris<br />Just read this article again. It's bang on the money as always. There should be a hand out for 'families and friends of the patient' with this kind of guide in it. Because, for me one of the most difficult things to deal with was people averting their eyes, or being uncomfortable around me. <br />When i got sick, I didn't expect people to behave the way they did, some really amazingly, as you say. But some just disappeared from my life and it hurt me. I couldn't figure out why this happened. A couple of years later, once I was back on track (after al sorts of head reading and emotional breakdown) i got in touch with a couple of people who had disappeared and asked what happened. Both said the same thing, they were sorry, they just couldn't deal with me being sick and it had upset them so much they couldn't bring themselves to be part of my fight. They felt awful about it, like they'd let me down (which they had) and were so grateful I'd called to speak to them so they could explain themselves. <br />It'If they'd had some sort of understanding about how to manifest their love and hurt, they wouldn't have suffered like they did. So little is provided to the families emotionally. Come to think of it, so little is provided to the patient emotionally either. All the chemo in the world can't fix a broken head. <br /><br />Anyway, class article. <br />Jez Jezzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03495678462130649188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-56674852812266642632012-04-28T10:37:03.331+01:002012-04-28T10:37:03.331+01:00Thank you for sharing your experience with the com...Thank you for sharing your experience with the community. That is exactly the kind of thing that I was talking about,the awkwardness. I think the very important point you make, is 'if they are open to it'!<br /><br />I look forward to welcoming you back to the blogChrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208572330195914101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8749436707205297492.post-86963753560150024062012-04-28T10:32:42.375+01:002012-04-28T10:32:42.375+01:00Loved your blog post today. It reminded me of how...Loved your blog post today. It reminded me of how people were with me when I told them about my mum being ill and was even harder once she'd died as people don't know what to say or do. It's a learning experience for everyone involved, so long as they're open to it...xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com