' Not relying on others for support, care, or funds; self-supporting'. This is the dictionary definition of independence, in the term that I want to talk about today.
I was prompted to write this post when I saw an older gentleman in a wheelchair, being accompanied to hospital, by his two adult daughters. They were organising his appointments, sitting with him while he waited for the doctor, then taking him along for his tests and then going to collect his medication.
One of the daughters was telling me that he kept talking about his life before his illness which meant he had to go into a wheel chair. She said to me, " Do you know what he misses most"? I said, "I do, it's his independence! " She laughed, as she didn't expect me to know.
I told her, to try and imagine what he was going through mentally. Life was tough for them all, as the daughters were now carers, but what was going on in that mans head must be torture. Apparently he was a big strong man, who loved his food and women. By all accounts, he was a bit of a lad, and led his life to the full. As he got older, bit by bit, his normal life was being taken from him, until he can't even go anywhere without the support of his family. He relies on doctors to keep him alive and his family to look after him. Almost everything left in his life, he has to ask someone else to do for him. Wow!! Can you imagine how that feels?
I am still clinging on to the hope that one day I will be independent again. Do you sometimes feel some of the emotions I do?
Can you seek help easily? How has your independence been affected?